This sexual addiction test is by no means a definitive or official test. It’s simply a tool in helping you decide whether or not you think you would benefit from involvement in Sexaholics Anonymous.
We don’t claim to be able to diagnose anyone as a sexaholic. For us, until we had been driven to the point of despair, until we really wanted to stop but could not, we did not give ourselves to this program of recovery. Few of us were convinced we were sexaholics, when we came to our first meeting. Sexaholics Anonymous is for those who know they have no other option but to stop, and their own enlightened self-interest must tell them this. Remember: the only requirement for membership and attending SA meetings is a desire to stop lusting and become sexually sober – we are not required to identify as sexaholics, sex addicts, or to hold any belief whatsoever on the matter.
Keep score of how many times you answer YES as you answer the following questions:
- Have you ever thought you needed help for your sexual thinking or behaviour?
- That you’d be better off if you didn’t keep “giving in”?
- That sex or stimuli are controlling you?
- Have you ever tried to stop or limit doing what you felt was wrong in your sexual behaviour?
- Do you resort to sex to escape, relieve anxiety, or because you can’t cope?
- Do you feel guilt, remorse or depression afterward?
- Has your pursuit of sex become more compulsive?
- Does it interfere with relations with your spouse?
- Do you have to resort to images or memories during sex?
- Does an irresistible impulse arise when the other party makes the overtures or sex is offered?
- Do you keep going from one “relationship” or lover to another?
- Do you feel the “right relationship” would help you stop lusting, masturbating, or being so promiscuous?
- Do you have a destructive need – a desperate sexual or emotional need for someone?
- Does pursuit of sex make you careless for yourself or the welfare of your family or others?
- Has your effectiveness or concentration decreased as sex has become more compulsive?
- Do you lose time from work for it?
- Do you turn to a lower environment when pursuing sex?
- Do you want to get away from the sex partner as soon as possible after the act?
- Although your spouse is sexually compatible, do you still masturbate or have sex with others?
- Have you ever been arrested for a sex-related offence?
Do you have the desire to stop lusting and become sexually sober?
If so, we encourage you attend at least six SA meetings to see if it is for you. You are welcome to talk to someone in SA if you are unsure whether you should attend a meeting. Our collective experience has taught us that freedom from the obsession of lust and compulsive sexual behaviour is possible!
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