What is Sexual Sobriety?

In defining sobriety, we do not speak for those outside of Sexaholics Anonymous.   Sexual sobriety for sexaholics of our type means no sex with ourselves and no sex with any partner other than the spouse.  

In SA’s sobriety definition, the term “spouse” refers to one’s partner in a marriage between a man and a woman.  Sexual sobriety also means progressive freedom from the many forms of sexual thinking and stimulation and lust that enter our lives.  This freedom is found by remaining sober and by using our Twelve Steps and Twelve Traditions in our daily lives (SA To The Newcomer).

We have found that nothing else works. When we have tried to deny what our common experience has taught us, we have found that recovery still eludes us. In spite of the questions, struggles and confusion that we have gone through, we find that sexual sobriety is truly the key to a happy and joyous freedom we could otherwise never know. That’s why we keep coming back to SA (Sexaholics Anonymous, p. 3).

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